Posted by Gia Codrescu on Apr 7, 2010 in
Inner World “Nu-i cer nimic…
Şi totuşi, dacă-ar vrea -
O, dac-ar vrea să-mi dea ce nu-i cer încă -
Ar face dintr-un lac o Marmara,
Şi dintr-un melc, un Sfinx săpat în stâncă.
Nu-i cer nimic…
Dar dacă-ar fi să-i cer
Ce-aş vrea să am şi ce-ar putea să-mi dea,
Aş picura-ntr-o cupă cu eter
Morfină
Şi i-aş cere-apoi aşa:
Dă-mi tot ce crezi că nu se poate da,
Dă-mi calmul blond al soarelui polar,
Dă-mi primul crepuscul pe Golgota
Şi primul armistiţiu planetar.
Dă-mi paradoxul frumuseţii tale,
Dă-mi prorocirea viselor rebele,
Dă-mi resemnarea strofelor banale
Şi controversa versurilor mele.
Dă-mi A.B.C. al vieţii subterane,
Dă-mi simfonia flautelor mute,
Dă-mi tălmăcirea buzelor profane
Şi rebusul icoanelor tăcute.
Dă-mi preţul primei victime-a femeii,
Dă-mi simbolul opalului şi-agatei,
Dă-mi ritmu-nveninat al Salomeii
Şi tusea-n fa minor a Traviatei.
Dă-mi Spleen-ul călătorilor pe apă,
Dă-mi spectrul verde-al zilelor de-apoi,
Dă-mi gravitatea morţilor spre groapă
Şi comicul funebrului convoi.
Dă-mi tot ce-n prima clipă risipeşti,
Şi tot ce-n clipa ultimă aduni.
Dă-mi fastul siluetelor regeşti
Şi perspectiva casei de nebuni…
Nu-i cer nimic.
Şi totuşi, dacă-ar vrea -
O, dacă-ar vrea să-mi dea ce nu-i cer încă! -
Ar face dintr-un lac o Marmara
Şi dintr-un melc, un Sfinx săpat în stâncă.”
(Ion Minulescu)
Posted by Gia Codrescu on Apr 7, 2010 in
Inner World “Eu ştiu c-ai să mă-nşeli chiar mâine…
Dar fiindcă azi mi te dai toată,
Am să te iert -
E vechi păcatul
Şi nu eşti prima vinovată!…
În cinstea ta,
Cea mai frumoasă din toate fetele ce mint,
Am ars miresme-otrăvitoare în trepieduri de argint,
În pat ţi-am presărat garoafe
Şi maci -
Tot flori însângerate -
Şi cu parfum de brad pătat-am dantela pernelor curate,
Iar în covorul din perete ca şi-ntr-o glastră am înfipt
Trei ramuri verzi de lămâiţă
Şi-un ram uscat de-Eucalipt.
Dar iată,
Bate miezul nopţii…
E ora când amanţii,-alt’dată,
Sorbeau cu-amantele-mpreună otrava binecuvântată…
Deci vino,
Vino şi desprinde-ţi din pieptenul de fildeş părul,
Înfinge-ţi în priviri Minciuna
Şi-n caldul buzei Adevărul
Şi spune-mi:
Dintre câţi avură norocul să te aibă-aşa
Câţi au murit
Şi câţi blesteamă de-a nu te fi putut uita?…
Eu ştiu c-ai să mă-nşeli chiar mâine…
Dar fiindcă azi mi te dai toată.
Am să te iert -
E vechi păcatul
Şi nu eşti prima vinovată!…
Deci nu-ţi cer vorbe-mperecheate de sărutări,
Nu-ţi cer să-mi spui
Nimic din tot ce-ai spus la alţii,
Ci tot ce n-ai spus nimănui.
Şi nu-ţi cer patima nebună şi fără de sfârşit,
Nu-ţi cer
Nimic din ce poetul palid
Cerşeşte-n veci de veci, stingher,
Voi doar să-mi schimbi de poţi o clipă
Din şirul clipelor la fel,
Să-mi torni în suflet înfinitul unui pahar de hidromel,
În păr să-mi împleteşti cununa de laur verde
Şi în priviri
Să-mi împietreşti pe veci minciuna neprihănitelor iubiri.
Şi-aşa tăcuţi -
Ca două umbre, trântiţi pe maldărul de flori -
Să-ncepem slujba-n miez de noapte
Şi mâine s-o sfârşim în zori!”
(Ion Minulescu)
Posted by Gia Codrescu on Apr 5, 2010 in
Inner World Testul realizat de C. G. Jung – de aici http://similarminds.com/jung.html
Extroverted (E) 67.57% Introverted (I) 32.43%
Intuitive (N) 58.97% Sensing (S) 41.03%
Feeling (F) 65% Thinking (T) 35%
Perceiving (P) 62.16% Judging (J) 37.84%
outgoing, social, disorganized, easily talked into doing silly things, spontaneous, wild and crazy, acts without thinking, good at getting people to have fun, pleasure seeking, irresponsible, physically affectionate, risk taker, thrill seeker, likely to have or want a tattoo, adventurous, unprepared, attention seeking, hyperactive, irrational, loves crowds, rule breaker, prone to losing things, seductive, easily distracted, open, revealing, comfortable in unfamiliar situations, attracted to strange things, non punctual, likes to stand out, likes to try new things, fun seeker, unconventional, energetic, impulsive, empathetic, dangerous, loving, attachment prone, prone to fantasy
favored careers:
performer, actor, entertainer, songwriter, musician, filmmaker, comedian, radio broadcaster/dj, some job related to theater/drama, poet, music journalist, work in fashion industry, singer, movie producer, playwright, bartender, comic book author, work in television, dancer, artist, record store owner, model, freelance artist, teacher (art, drama, music), writer, painter, massage therapist, costume designer, choreographer, make up artist
disfavored careers:
data analyst, scientist, researcher, financial advisor, business analyst, govt employee, office manager, mathematician, investment banker, office worker, computer tech, it professional, network engineer, strategist
(de aici)
General: ENFPs are both “idea”-people and “people”-people, who see everyone and everything as part of an often bizarre cosmic whole. They want to both help (at least, their own definition of “help”) and be liked and admired by other people, on bo th an individual and a humanitarian level. They are interested in new ideas on principle, but ultimately discard most of them for one reason or another.
Social/Personal Relationships: ENFPs have a great deal of zany charm, which can ingratiate them to the more stodgy types in spite of their unconventionality. They are outgoing, fun, and genuinely like people. As SOs/mates they are warm, affectionate (l ots of PDA), and disconcertingly spontaneous. However, attention span in relationships can be short; ENFPs are easily intrigued and distracted by new friends and acquaintances, forgetting about the older ones for long stretches at a time. Less mature ENFPs may need to feel they are the center of attention all the time, to reassure them that everyone thinks they’re a wonderful and fascinating person.
ENFPs often have strong, if unconvential, convictions on various issues related to their Cosmic View. They usually try to use their social skills and contacts to persuade people gently of the rightness of these views; his sometimes results in their negle cting their nearest and dearest while flitting around trying to save the world.
Work Environment: ENFPs are pleasant, easygoing, and usually fun to work with. They come up with great ideas, and are a major asset in brainstorming sessions. Followthrough tends to be a problem, however; they tend to get bored quickly, especially if a newer, more interesting project comes along. They also tend to be procrastinators, both about meeting hard deadlines and about performing any small, uninteresting tasks that they’ve been assigned. ENFPs are at their most useful when working in a group w ith a J or two to take up the slack.
ENFPs hate bureaucracy, both in principle and in practice; they will always make a point of launching one of their crusades against some aspect of it.
Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving
by Joe Butt
ENFPs are friendly folks. Most are really enjoyable people. Some of the most soft-hearted people are ENFPs.
ENFPs have what some call a “silly switch.” They can be intellectual, serious, all business for a while, but whenever they get the chance, they flip that switch and become CAPTAIN WILDCHILD, the scourge of the swimming pool, ticklers par excellence. Som etimes they may even appear intoxicated when the “switch” is flipped.
One study has shown that ENFPs are significantly overrepresented in psychodrama. Most have a natural propensity for role-playing and acting.
ENFPs like to tell funny stories, especially about their friends. This penchant may be why many are attracted to journalism. I kid one of my ENFP friends that if I want the sixth fleet to know something, I’ll just tell him.
ENFPs are global learners. Close enough is satisfactory to the ENFP, which may unnerve more precise thinking types, especially with such things as piano practice (“three quarter notes or four … what’s the difference?”) Amazingly, some ENFPs are adept at exacting disciplines such as mathematics.
Friends are what life is about to ENFPs, moreso even than the other NFs. They hold up their end of the relationship, sometimes being victimized by less caring individuals. ENFPs are energized by being around people. Some have real difficulty being alone , especially on a regular basis.
One ENFP colleague, a social worker, had such tremendous interpersonal skills that she put her interviewers at ease during her own job interview. She had the ability to make strangers feel like old friends.
ENFPs sometimes can be blindsided by their secondary Feeling function. Hasty decisions based on deeply felt values may boil over with unpredictable results. More than one ENFP has abruptly quit a job in such a moment.
(de aici)
Like the other Idealists, Champions are rather rare, say two or three percent of the population, but even more than the others they consider intense emotional experiences as being vital to a full life. Champions have a wide range and variety of emotions, and a great passion for novelty. They see life as an exciting drama, pregnant with possibilities for both good and evil, and they want to experience all the meaningful events and fascinating people in the world. The most outgoing of the Idealists, Champions often can’t wait to tell others of their extraordinary experiences. Champions can be tireless in talking with others, like fountains that bubble and splash, spilling over their own words to get it all out. And usually this is not simple storytelling; Champions often speak (or write) in the hope of revealing some truth about human experience, or of motivating others with their powerful convictions. Their strong drive to speak out on issues and events, along with their boundless enthusiasm and natural talent with language, makes them the most vivacious and inspiring of all the types.
Fiercely individualistic, Champions strive toward a kind of personal authenticity, and this intention always to be themselves is usually quite attractive to others. At the same time, Champions have outstanding intuitive powers and can tell what is going on inside of others, reading hidden emotions and giving special significance to words or actions. In fact, Champions are constantly scanning the social environment, and no intriguing character or silent motive is likely to escape their attention. Far more than the other Idealists, Champions are keen and probing observers of the people around them, and are capable of intense concentration on another individual. Their attention is rarely passive or casual. On the contrary, Champions tend to be extra sensitive and alert, always ready for emergencies, always on the lookout for what’s possible.
Champions are good with people and usually have a wide range of personal relationships. They are warm and full of energy with their friends. They are likable and at ease with colleagues, and handle their employees or students with great skill. They are good in public and on the telephone, and are so spontaneous and dramatic that others love to be in their company. Champions are positive, exuberant people, and often their confidence in the goodness of life and of human nature makes good things happen.
Joan Baez, Phil Donahue, Paul Robeson, Bill Moyer, Elizibeth Cady Stanton, Joeseph Campbell, Edith Wharton, Sargent Shriver, Charles Dickens, and Upton Sinclair are examples of Idealist Champions
(de aici)
People naturally confide in the Champion (ENFP). That’s why they make such good mediators, counselors, teachers, consultants, and reporters. Any position that outreaches to others can fit the Champion. They can be columnists, journalists, publicists, copy writers, advertising account executives. In the arts they can be character actors, cartoonists, art educators. If they choose jobs such as restaurateur, be sure that their business sites will be unique and designed for a particular type of customer. Don’t be surprised to see them as an inventor. This type of personality wants to experience the whole of life and may change careers more often than many other types. Says Charles, “I’ve had a number of jobs and when there is nothing left to create, I move to something new. I want my life to be spiced with newness, love, and joy.”
Arianna is an Idealist Champion (ENFP). She has always found that men are attracted to her. She has had quite a few serious romances. As soon as she realizes that they are both attracted to each other, Arianna has whole-heartedly thrown herself into the relationship, later discovering that they aren’t suited to each other at all. Then she forced herself to slow down and take time to get to know the other person. She’s been dating her current boyfriend for 2 years. He has been a steadying influence on her.
Champions (ENFPs) have inspirational diplomatic intelligence. Counselors use interactions with others to gain new insights and spot deeper issues for both individuals and groups. They use words to paint pictures to inspire others to meet new challenges and go beyond that which is easy.
Kirby has been studying Kinesiology and Health Promotion. He’d like to travel to Third World Countries to improve health conditions. “I hate to see people suffering because of poor sanitation and ignorance about healthy ways of living. When I graduate, I’ll be associated with a missionary group that provides medical assistance and health information.” If you’re a Champion, how does your major help develop inspirational diplomatic intelligence?
Champions (ENFP) need a study environment that is stimulating. They have a very difficult time working alone and quietly. They work best when their ideas bounce off someone else. Paul studied and studied for his psychology mid-term. It didn’t seem to help. Then he went to a study session. As he started talking and getting feedback, he was amazed at how much he actually knew. He aced the exam.
Posted by Gia Codrescu on Mar 9, 2010 in
Inner World Respira. Nu uita sa respiri. Ochii ti s-au largit deja, cat sa cuprinda mai multa lumina, sa vada mai mult, dar imaginea este aceeasi. Creierul incepe sa calculeze rapid zeci de alternative pentru a te opri din alunecare, dar nu returneaza niciun rezultat valid. Degetele ti se agata incordate de aer si simti ca te sufoci. Respira, nu auzi? E foarte important sa respiri. Chiar mult si repede, sa ametesti un pic, sa nu mai gandesti atat, fiindca deja iti simti capul prins intre doi pereti ce se apropie.
In locul unde stiai ca e inima ta mai fumega doar o gramajoara de cenusa pe care un vant in curand o va imprastia. Stomacul ti s-a strans intr-un pumn de luptator ce se pregateste sa loveasca, iar gura o simti naclaita de cerneala. Acum ai doua variante. Ori cazi pe jos, ori te prabusesti in tine. Alegi a doua varianta.
Se spune ca atunci cand ti-e frica “iti ingheata sangele in vene”. De fapt, muchii se contracta involuntar si amortesti. Tensiunea iti scade si te racesti. Dar acum simteai efectiv cum sangele iti ingheata. Cum se opreste din curgere si incepe sa se cristalizeze. Iar fiindca orice lichid care ingheata isi mareste volumul, asta facea ca venele sa-ti pocneasca cu sunet de floricele, pe rand. Si nu se compara cu durerea din suflet.
Esti ca un joc de domino in mijlocul unei intersectii. O oglinda venetiana in calea tancurilor. Un portelan chinezesc intr-o gradinita. Esti ca o icoana veche in lupta cu timpul. Ca un palarier in lupta cu modernitatea. Ca o picatura de apa uitata la soare. Esti o mica floare de nu-ma-uita in calea uitarii. N-ai nicio scapare.
(continuarea pe pandoras.ro)
Posted by Gia Codrescu on Mar 7, 2010 in
Inner World Vrei sa ai relatii autentice, mai frumoase si mai implinite? Vrei sa depasesti mai usor blocajele din relatiile tale? Iti doresti sa exprimi mai bine ceea ce simti si ceea ce doresti? Te-ai saturat de relatii in care ai senzatia ca ”lucrurile se repeta”?
Daca ai raspuns “DA!”, te invit la cursul deschis “Eu, Tu si Relatia noastra – Curs de Comunicare Relationala (In)Completa” in zilele 13-14 martie 2010.
Iata 3 beneficii cheie ale acestui curs deschis:
- Te bucuri de relatii functionale avand pozitia de viata “Eu sunt OK, tu esti OK”
- Afli cum “colaborezi” la fiecare din relatiile tale si cum poti schimba relatia, pozitionandu-te diferit.
- Eviti “jocurile psihologice” si folosesti energia lor in scop creativ
Afla mai multe despre cursurile Steps4Change cu tema relatiilor si despre viziunea Ralucai asupra relatiilor aici:
http://steps4change.ro/2009/11/eu-tu-si-relatia-noastra-15-decembrie-2009-ora-1830/
http://www.empower.ro/inteligenta-emotionala/igiena-relationala/
http://www.empower.ro/comunicare/menage-a-trois-eu-tu-si-relatia-noastra/
Ce inveti din acest program?
1. Intelegi ca fiecare relatie din viata ta este ca un organism viu, care are nevoie de timp, spatiu si ingrijire.
2. Inveti sa folosesti “EU” si sa iti gasesti Vocea ta interioara. Inveti sa iti asumi responsabilitatea pentru nevoile si dorintele tale si sa ai grija de ele. Inveti sa primesti si sa amplifici mesajele cadou si sa refuzi mesajele “toxice” in cadrul relatiilor.
3. Inveti cele 4 componente ale unei relatii vii – a da, a primi, a cere, a refuza. Vei sti sa oferi fara a astepta ceva in schimb, sa fii receptiv la ceea ce ti se ofera, sa ceri luandu-ti riscul de a fi refuzat si … sa spui NU altora pentru a-ti spune DA tie.
Cine este trainerul?
Raluca Mohanu este coach si trainer specializat in acompanierea clientilor in procese de tranzitie. Raluca aduce la acest curs experienta sa de peste 1,000 de ore de training si specializarea in cursuri de dezvoltare personala materializate in intalnirile lunare “Pasi pentru schimbare”.
Formarea Ralucai include cursuri de Analiza Tranzactionala, ESPERE (Comunicare relationala) si terapie prin arta.
Pentru mai multe informatii despre Raluca, viziteaza http://steps4change.ro.
Cum se va desfasura:
Pe parcursul celor doua zile vei parcurge exercitii individuale si de grup bazate pe metoda ESPERE (Jacques Salome), si analiza tranzactionala (conceptele de “driver” si “joc psihologic”, “pozitii de viata”). Totodata, vei folosi simbolizarea si vei invata folosindu-te de culoare si miscare.
Locatia: Seeds for Happiness, str. Fabrica de Chibrituri nr 16, sector 4 (in Piata Gara Filaret).
Data: sambata13 si duminica 14 martie. Programul cursului este 09:00 – 18:00.
Inscrie-te ACUM trimitand e-mail la office@steps4change.ro. Locurile sunt limitate, iar inscrierile se fac pe principiul “Primul confirmat, primul participant”.
Investitia ta: 800 RON. Costul acopera instruirea, materialele de curs si 4 pauze de cafea. Plata se face in contul SC Steps4Change SRL, Raiffeisen Bank Sucursala Magheru, cont RO97 RZBR 0000 0600 1118 1680.
Reduceri: Poti beneficia de o reducere de 20% (160RON) daca indeplinesti una din urmatoarele conditii:
- esti deja client Steps4Change (ai participat la cel putin un program de training sau esti client de coaching)
- achiti participarea la curs pana in data de 1 martie 2010
- vii la curs impreuna cu un prieten.
Un participant poate beneficia de o singura reducere.
